William The Coroner’s Forensic Files

Monday, 9, February, 2009

Wish I’d Said That

Filed under: Social Commentary — williamthecoroner @ 12:56

Two good points from Dr. Janet Stemwedel:  She’s discussing the use of honorifics in conversation (Dr, Mr, etc.)  I believe personally it is best to start formal and then titrate it downwards.

First off, I think respect for persons ought to be absolutely central to our interactions with each other, every day and in every way. I’m with Kant on that one. People have the potential to do wonderful things — even of they haven’t delivered on that promise yet — and they have the potential to feel really bad if treated poorly by others. There’s never a good reason to go out of your way to treat someone poorly, and the extra effort it may take to treat the other people you encounter as actual human beings rather than just obstacles in your path is almost always worth it. (Sometimes the value comes in what kind of person it makes you to treat others well, but that’s still value-added.)


Let’s remember, … that respect for persons includes respect for oneself.



  1. Plus …
    People whom you treat badly usually have the damndest memories, and they’re usually more than obliged to return the favor some day.

    Comment by WhiteCoat — Monday, 9, February, 2009 @ 18:52 | Reply

  2. Ah, could you go tell my boss that? He figures since he has a phd, no one else can ever be right…

    Comment by Old NFO — Monday, 9, February, 2009 @ 20:47 | Reply

  3. My two cents . . .

    I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. — Maya Angelou

    Comment by Salome — Tuesday, 10, February, 2009 @ 15:34 | Reply

  4. This is a very large peeve for me. I try to be respectful and mindful of how I interact but not everyone sees it that way. One memorable instance was an optometrist who referred to herself as Dr Jones but insisted upon calling me by my first name even after I corrected her and explained why it was offensive. That didn’t work, so I accepted that we were on first name basis and called her Diane for the duration. I was quite annoyed and despite financial benefits (she takes my insurance), never again.

    Comment by Rossie — Sunday, 15, February, 2009 @ 11:51 | Reply

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